According to McMinn (1996) a strong sense of self is a combination of spiritual growth and mental health that should not be compartmentalized or separated. The individual’s ability to move toward a healthy and accurate self-awareness is opposite of self-absorption: “To be healthy, we need to move beyond a preoccupation with self” (McMinn, 1996, p. 46). This means knowing and having an accurate picture of the self in order for growth and maturity to take place. This should not be confused with selfishness but is instead a process from which to leave unhealty habits and thought processes behind.
A healthy sense of self is recognition of neediness, brokenness, and pain in order to cultivate community, reciprocity in relationships, and healing. Self-awareness comes from pain and discomfort; producing insight and healing (McMinn, 1996). From a Christian perspective, I believe that acknowledgment of human sinfulness and fallibility can lead to humble reflection and nuture the ability to change, grow, and thrive. This type of self-awareness keeps an individual moving forward instead of falling into despair. I agree with McMinn’s (1996) view that an accurate sense of self, need, and healing relationships all interact together and lead to a holistic picture of spiritual and psychological health.
Reference
McMinn, M.R. (1996). Psychology, theology, and spirituality in Christian counseling. Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House.